It is very hard to convince busy business people to take a load off.Everyday is an opportunity for a conversation about energy management with business leaders. But I’m up against the pervasive push of the media: blogs, videos, books, and productivity gurus emphatically claiming that the secret to success is to do more, organize better, reach higher levels of productivity, and that it just takes massive amounts of hard work, day-in and day-out to be successful. It is exhausting just to watch, read, and attend to, much less do the work. Which is why lots of us study the material, but we never follow through. Lots of us have spurts of motivation but peter out. It is just too much pressure.
Instead, we just churn on the hamster wheel of the day-to-day, facing burnout, dullness, and a lack of inspiration.What if we didn’t push, push, push or listen to the incessant drum beat of “Do more. Be more. Do more. Be more.
Life's Lessons? It's Monkey MindWhat I do know is that my “monkey mind”, that internal dialog that ceaselessly speaks to me, is crazy. And as I listen to and react to that part of my mind, I hear the same crap time after time. My monkey mind says things like, “Oh shit, here we go again, “Been there, done that!” or maybe, “What is wrong with that asshole?!” Actually, the list of crap that my monkey mind speaks is endless. This week I had the privilege of attending a transformational workshop with Maria Nemeth at the Academy of Coaching Excellence in Sacramento, CA and now I am in fact, transformed. I learned to tame the beast. This is Day 9 of my 30-Day Facebook Live Leadership Challenge where I discuss my experience. Here is the upshot: I have identified the personal lessons that I keep repeating (worth the price of admission) and learned simple methods to quiet my monkey mind, not think too hard, and not get stuck recycling my feelings. Bravo! (ps: The audio on the Facebook feed for this video is not working well. Please put your comments here or by all means, on the Facebook Feed.)
Labor Day 2017 and Jobs Still Suck!This is follow up to Day 7 of the 30 Day Leadership Facebook Live Challenge on Labor Day. Labor Day is the celebration of the birth of Labor Unions and the Industrial Revolution. After all, without Labor Unions we wouldn’t have weekends or the 5 day work week. People would continue to be exploited in inexplicable ways. But it is time to transcend to a better life for everyone. This is not the Industrial Age or even the Information Age anymore. We are living in the Conceptual Age. That is why it is time to create a new vision. Here is what I imagine:
Imagine a world where:
- Every person becomes a contributing partner to the organizations they serve.
- Every person is compensated as a contributing partner and the results they create rather than their time served.
- Compensation is based on the profitability of the organization.
- Together we uniquely design our organizations.
- The need to comply with laws created in the early 20th century to protect employees from employers becomes obsolete.
- The war between capital and labor disappears. (Finally)
This is Day 6 of my 30 Day Facebook Live Leadership Challenge: Life Design and Unique AbilityJoe Stauffacher told me to do the 30 day Facebook Live Challenge. Coach Sue told me to do the odyssey exercise in the book Designing Your Life. They are both helping me to focus on my next life chapter. And while the Facebook challenge is well, a vulnerability challenge, when I asked myself the $64,000 question: “What if money were no object?” it changed the life design project for me too. I am not sure if I would do this.
Would you do what you are currently doing if money were no object? What would you do differently?I’m working my way through the book Designing Your Life. Learning to apply design theory to my life is interesting. I like these guys. It reminded me of what I did an exercise called, Unique Ability a few years ago. In that exercise, you walk through your strengths and some similar type of brainstorming and cataloging. But then you ask others for feedback. You literally write them a letter asking what they think is your Unique Ability! That was crazy vulnerable too. But, it helped me to clearly understand MY unique ability. I’ve never forgotten the result of that project. I’m thinking about taking a Design Your Life workshop not only to do the work but to learn how to do the workshop. Would you like to do something like this? I’m thinking of doing it virtually… but not on Facebook live. If you haven’t seen it already, here is the link where you can view Day 6 of my 30 day Facebook Live Leadership Challenge. And here are the links to the books we discussed. Let me know if you are interested in working on these projects yourself. Its pretty cool.
Challenge AcceptedAfter Day 2 I was asked to produce a list of perspective topics. Good idea. Here is my brain dump:
- Where ever you are, you are there
- Working with Anxiety
- Attachment: You own your emotions
- Walking your path
- Minimalism - Less is More
- Creating simplicity in your life
- Life is the people you meet
- Slow travel
- Meditation, mindfulness and the art of not thinking
- Leaders ask questions not have answers
- 7 rules of alignment
- How to have difficult conversations
- How to have great meetings
- Behaviors Styles
- 12 Drivers
- Living your Strengths
- Building trust
- Do you need a system
- Job profiling
- How to screen for job candidates
- How to use assessments for hirings
- Trimetrix: DISC, Drivers, Accumen assessments
- Open Book Management
- On boarding new hires
- Are you a leadership jerk?
- Risk taking in business and life
- Tribal Leadership
- 5 stages of Tribe
- Building a Value Based organization
- Energy Management
- 4 key energy needs
- 3 high payoff business activities
- Unique Ability- How to have others help you find your authentic self
- Dan Sulllivan: Free days, focus days, buffer days
- The E Myth- Do you own job or a business ?
- The Challenger Sale
- Make the Noise go Away- How to have or be a #2
- How to complement your strengths
- Anti Guruism
- What is High Performance?
- The Lean Startup
- Neurolingistic levels (NLP)
- Finding life purpose
- Designing Your Life
- Passion and its place in business
- Business valuation and building value
- Sales funnels
- SWOT assessments
- To sell or not to sell your business
- Turn it Up - The Movie
- The music industry
- The Key to the Golden Handcuffs - The Book
- Making a business work without you
- The residual income myth
- Generations - especially IGen
- Public Speaking
- I love Hot Springs
I think of this as the authenticity short list:
- Design – Moving beyond function to engage the sense.
- Story – Narrative added to products and services - not just argument. Best of the six senses.
- Symphony – Adding invention and big picture thinking (not just detail focus).
- Empathy – Going beyond logic and engaging emotion and intuition.
- Play – Bringing humor and light-heartedness to business and products.
- Meaning – the purpose is the journey, give meaning to life from inside yourself.
30 days on Facebook live.I called earlier this week to complain. “I can’t do this, Joe.” “It is too vulnerable, Joe.” " What will I say, Joe?" His replay, “Great, just do it anyway.” Shit. That is why I’m returning to Brene Brown and her teachings on vulnerability. Check her out if you also need a vulnerability boost. Here is an applicable quote from Brene Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
“Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”Here is one of my favorite and applicable quotes from: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“...the vulnerability journey is not the kind of journey we can make alone. We need support. We need folks who will let us try on new ways of being without judging us. We need a hand to pick us up off the ground when we get kicked down in the area (and if we live a courageous life, that will happen.)”
Reach out. Be vulnerable. Do it anyway.Follow the 30 Day Leadership Facebook Live challenge
Here’s the common thinking about other generations :• The youngest people, the Millennials and their younger siblings iGen, are unemployable, which leaves them SOL. • The older generation, or Baby Boomers, can't retire—so they are also SOL. And while there’s truth to both of those statements, here’s another truth: • My generation has the worst of both worlds. It’s typically called Gen X, but I propose that this generation should now be called Generation Invisible. My parents also feel small and invisible. They’re part of the Traditional or Silent generation, wedged in between the WW2 generation and the Baby Boomers. But despite some lost savings due to the recession, people of this age are retired and many of them are receiving pensions—a token of a bygone era. The members of Generation Invisible, who have always valued their status of being weird and unique, wedged in between Baby Boomers and Millennials, are singing a very different tune right now. While many of my friends have recuperated, there is a silent mass of people in our country that are still burdened with massive amounts of debt, bad credit reports, failed businesses, and joblessness. And I believe if you looked at the bell curve, you'd find the peak of the pain curve around 50 years old. Center for Work-Life Policy revealed "Gen Xers to be the chief victims of the Great Recession. They're working harder—a two-parent family worked 26 percent more hours in 2010 than in 1975— and making less.” From Bloomberg.com “Baby boomers have decided to postpone retirement. Gen Y is laying claim to the social-networking bonanza. But what of those born between 1965 and 1978? Well, they’re underpaid, overworked, guilt-ridden, and deeply indebted.” So, what do we do? Here are some of the things that I see my peers doing: • Work really, really, really hard for a lot less money then we need in order to keep their heads above water. • Downsize. Own less stuff. Move into “cheap” rentals. Drive a clunker… etc. • Yoyo their credit card debt while ignoring that they have NO savings, NO retirement, and little to NO assets. • Start a business with no savings and no credit, and hope that it doesn't create more debt and bankruptcy. • Fight clinical depression. • Drink heavily. When I sat down to write this article, I thought I would tell stories about the crazy things I've been trying to do to get out of debt and get ahead. I'd tell stories about the angst and the panic that debt and a loss of earning potential can create. I'd tell stories about all the people I've met who feel that they've lost their identity and their mojo. And as I researched this issue, the more real it became. I thought it must be me. I thought that I must be alone in my inability to recuperate or in the length of time that it is taking to unbury myself. I thought that everyone who calls me negative or pessimistic is just being judgmental. But my conclusions are statistically accurate. This isn't about overcoming personal adversity. This is about overcoming a generational event. CLICK for this startling infographic: generation-x-reality-bites CLICK for this slideshow that requires a cocktail just to get to the end: gen-x-has-a-lot-of-catching-up-to-do-9 Here are the three realities that I know are true: • As we are under earning and under worked, we must not feel shame. • We must strive to lead from a sense of humility. • This generation of independent weirdos must help each other. • We have to tell our stories. I do know that we will lead and survive uniquely. And I believe with all of my heart that we need to support each other. So I invite you to join with me in discussing and sharing amongst ourselves the real issues that we face. Our parents, our older brothers and sisters, our kids and their kids don't get the pain that is uniquely ours. Comment, connect, suggest. Above all, don't feel alone. We are in this together.
Here are 19 ways that hiring in your professional office can go awry:1. Your candidate doesn't truly understand confidentiality. 2. Your candidate doesn't know as much as you do about compliance. 3. You don't know if your front office candidate is truly congenial. 4. You don't know if your back office candidate talks too much. 5. You spend too much time hiring. 6. You spend too little time hiring. 7. There are no clear accountabilities for your back office staff. 8. You haven't tested for personal skills for support staff. 9. You aren't thinking about the successful behaviors of the job you wish to fill. 10. You don't understand the attitudes necessary in each job in your office. 11. You are not treating every job as critical. 12. You aren't effectively screening candidates for elimination. 13. You are not benchmarking each job for behavior and skills. 14. You aren't assessing for behavior and skills. 15. You are Panic Hiring. 16. Your hires struggle to follow directions. 17. You don't know if your back office staff has the necessary attention to detail. 18. You don't know if your producers can bring in clients. 19. You don't know if your producer candidate has the motivation to make money. [Tweet theme="basic-full"]Are you Panic Hiring? #endpanichiring[/Tweet] We have hired staff in numerous Wealth Advisory offices and can help to eliminate problems and find exactly the right job match for your office. Learn more about job matching at FailProofHiring.com and get your free ebook, “Hire Your Dream Employees: The Four Secrets of Hiring Well.”
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