I searched for a video of Presiyan Vasilev’s 2013 World Champion of Speaking award winning speech, “Changed by a Tire.”

I laughed out loud, when he asked, “Have you ever done anything stupid?” That is a great speech line. I choked up as he reached his conclusion. Let me know if you do too.

The theme of my week has been “reaching out.” Earlier this week a prospect told me that he too has the belief that Presiyan provokes. It is a prevalent belief that asking for help is bad, weak, vulnerable . . . fill in the blank. While discussing this belief, my prospect became my client. Presiyan explains this as magic in the connection.

The rest of my week hasn’t been great. It’s been more about doing stupid. I’ve been dressed down twice by clients who were stressed and unhappy with my performance. Brene Brown calls this a “shame storm.” But I reached out to people who could hear and empathize with my shame. And then I let it go. That is the magic of vulnerability and reaching out.

Before I went searching for this video, I finished Brene Brown’s book, “The Gifts of Imperfection.” This is a yummy book I didn’t want to finish. But here is the line by Howard Thurman that Brene shares that choked me up for the first time on this day.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Reach out. Be vulnerable. Be changed by a tire.


Ruth Schwartz

Ruth Schwartz is the author of "The Key to the Golden Handcuffs". She is a high performance business consultant and leadership coach. Connect with Ruth to participate in the conversation. Google+, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube .